Wow! In those days,... Adidas? Hmmm....
Bows, arrows, ... and cellphones in the olden days...
Hmmm.... aero planes in the Trojan War?
You need to hold the trigger to shoot someone or...?
Old movie. New watch? Watch it out!
Sunday, March 15, 2009
The blunders caught in these photos..
Wow! In those days,... Adidas? Hmmm....
Bows, arrows, ... and cellphones in the olden days...
Hmmm.... aero planes in the Trojan War?
You need to hold the trigger to shoot someone or...?
Old movie. New watch? Watch it out!
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Thursday, March 12, 2009
These are the difference..
Happiness and Optimism
Some people believe money leads to happiness. Not true. Once you're living comfortably, more money doesn't buy more happiness. The reverse, however, is true: Happiness leads to money. And success. Likewise, so does optimism. Both enable you to solve problems, conjure ideas, take long-range consequences into consideration and come back and try again if you miss the first time.
Resilience
People who have moved from a bad financial situation into comfort or wealth have resilience. They can overcome—on the job, in their personal lives, with their finances. They don't deny the bad things that happen, but they're able to turn their focus to things over which they have control with the belief that they have the ability to effect change. The good news is you don't have to be born with resilience—you can learn it by controlling the things you can control and letting go of the others.
Passion
It is a key element that moves people from a life of financial struggle to one of financial success. The wealthy, simply put, want it more than the rest of that. Some want it in the form of money, but most are quite passionate about the careers they choose to pursue. And, at a time where doing what you love may seem not so possible, it's important to know you can learn to love what you do.
Intuition
Over the years, your brain has scored up scads of patterns, information that tells you that if one thing happens, something else is likely to follow. We feel these signals in our gut. They are really our intuition, a sixth sense that is more developed in the wealthy than in anyone else. You can learn to bring yours forward by adopting strategies like giving your intuition a little room to breathe.
Habitual saving
The wealthy people certainly have the funds to be crazy spenders, but most are not. Both wealthy and financially comfortable individuals say that saving more money has been an "absolutely essential" financial goal as an adult. If you're not a habitual saver already, The Difference will show you how.
Invest in stocks
When housing prices were cratering and the markets were falling out of the sky. Yet, one lesson emerged again and again: The wealthy understand the need to take risks in the market—in good times and in bad—in order to make their money work as hard as they do.
Gratitude
The Karma Kickback. The people who get rich—and stay rich—are not just grateful. The need to practice gratitude by giving back to their communities, to organizations and be thankful for their job—when they think about it as a gift, they focus on what life might be if they didn't have it.
Some people believe money leads to happiness. Not true. Once you're living comfortably, more money doesn't buy more happiness. The reverse, however, is true: Happiness leads to money. And success. Likewise, so does optimism. Both enable you to solve problems, conjure ideas, take long-range consequences into consideration and come back and try again if you miss the first time.
Resilience
People who have moved from a bad financial situation into comfort or wealth have resilience. They can overcome—on the job, in their personal lives, with their finances. They don't deny the bad things that happen, but they're able to turn their focus to things over which they have control with the belief that they have the ability to effect change. The good news is you don't have to be born with resilience—you can learn it by controlling the things you can control and letting go of the others.
Passion
It is a key element that moves people from a life of financial struggle to one of financial success. The wealthy, simply put, want it more than the rest of that. Some want it in the form of money, but most are quite passionate about the careers they choose to pursue. And, at a time where doing what you love may seem not so possible, it's important to know you can learn to love what you do.
Intuition
Over the years, your brain has scored up scads of patterns, information that tells you that if one thing happens, something else is likely to follow. We feel these signals in our gut. They are really our intuition, a sixth sense that is more developed in the wealthy than in anyone else. You can learn to bring yours forward by adopting strategies like giving your intuition a little room to breathe.
Habitual saving
The wealthy people certainly have the funds to be crazy spenders, but most are not. Both wealthy and financially comfortable individuals say that saving more money has been an "absolutely essential" financial goal as an adult. If you're not a habitual saver already, The Difference will show you how.
Invest in stocks
When housing prices were cratering and the markets were falling out of the sky. Yet, one lesson emerged again and again: The wealthy understand the need to take risks in the market—in good times and in bad—in order to make their money work as hard as they do.
Gratitude
The Karma Kickback. The people who get rich—and stay rich—are not just grateful. The need to practice gratitude by giving back to their communities, to organizations and be thankful for their job—when they think about it as a gift, they focus on what life might be if they didn't have it.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Nice Quotes.....
The Power is Within You
"The most common way people give up their power
is by thinking they don't have any."
~ Alice Walker
"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you,
they're supposed to help you discover who you are."
~ Bernice Johnson Reagon
"Stop thinking in terms of limitations and
start thinking in terms of possibilities"
~ Terry Josephson
"Difficulty need not foreshadow despair or defeat.
Rather achievement can be all the more satisfying
because of obstacles surmounted."
~ William Hastie
"The most common way people give up their power
is by thinking they don't have any."
~ Alice Walker
"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you,
they're supposed to help you discover who you are."
~ Bernice Johnson Reagon
"Stop thinking in terms of limitations and
start thinking in terms of possibilities"
~ Terry Josephson
"Difficulty need not foreshadow despair or defeat.
Rather achievement can be all the more satisfying
because of obstacles surmounted."
~ William Hastie
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
How To Poison Your Mother-in-Law...
For those of you who have in-laws problems, this is how you do it.
And for those who do not have in-laws, then no problems but you may have others that you may want to poison. Then this too, is how you do it! It may take a while but it won't stress you at all !
How To Poison Your Mother-in-Law..The story goes...
A long time ago in China ,a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.Days passed, and weeks passed.
Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish.
All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law' s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.
Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.Mr Huang thought for awhile, and finally said,
'Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.'Li-Li said, 'Yes, Mr Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do'.Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, 'You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious...
Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving.
Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish,
and treat her like a queen'.Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law She remembered what Mr Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole environment around the house had changed.
Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months.Because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.The mother-in-law' s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter.
She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find.Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr Huang and asked for his help again. She said, 'Dear Mr Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her'.
Mr Huang smiled and nodded his head. 'Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about.I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her'
HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?
There is a wise Chinese saying:
The person who loves others will also be loved in return.
God might be trying to work in another person's life through you.....
And for those who do not have in-laws, then no problems but you may have others that you may want to poison. Then this too, is how you do it! It may take a while but it won't stress you at all !
How To Poison Your Mother-in-Law..The story goes...
A long time ago in China ,a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.Days passed, and weeks passed.
Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish.
All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law' s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.
Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.Mr Huang thought for awhile, and finally said,
'Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.'Li-Li said, 'Yes, Mr Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do'.Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, 'You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious...
Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving.
Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish,
and treat her like a queen'.Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law She remembered what Mr Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole environment around the house had changed.
Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months.Because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.The mother-in-law' s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter.
She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find.Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr Huang and asked for his help again. She said, 'Dear Mr Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her'.
Mr Huang smiled and nodded his head. 'Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about.I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her'
HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?
There is a wise Chinese saying:
The person who loves others will also be loved in return.
God might be trying to work in another person's life through you.....
Friday, March 6, 2009
WOMAN GOES TO WORK AFTER MANY YEARS
Hi All
This clip is hilarious…….
A typist goes back to work after many years.......
Video is only 4 seconds long so watch carefully.
If you're younger than 40 years, you won't understand the clip!
This clip is hilarious…….
A typist goes back to work after many years.......
Video is only 4 seconds long so watch carefully.
If you're younger than 40 years, you won't understand the clip!
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Love's Little Blind Spots
Sometimes, the power of your partner's self-absorption....how he or she can sit so cheerfully through dinner or engage with what he is doing..not knowing and oblivious to the fact that you're visibly upset.. may amaze you, But do not put a stop to the relationship so fast. There are a couple of good excuses to explain such clueless behavior, and they're likely to apply to you as well.
The first excuse has to do with an innocent brain glitch called attentional blink. Originally described by Canadian scientists in 1992, it occurs in certain circumstances when, for a split second, "we literally become unconscious of what might be happening right in front of us," says Richard Davidson, PhD, professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin–Madison. Researchers can elicit the blink by showing subjects a rapid stream of numbers on a computer screen and asking them to hit a button every time they see a 3. When two 3s appear closely together, Davidson says, almost nobody hits the button twice. "It's as if the mind gets stuck on the occurrence of the first and misses the second."
This is particularly true when we're in a heated or passionate interchange. "With emotional cues, our attention is very sticky," he explains.
"We tend to grasp onto certain things, which is really what causes us to miss the others. Rubbernecking on the freeways is an example of attentional grasping." Davidson's latest research showed, however, that three months of intensive vipassana—or insight—meditation significantly reduced attentional blink. "Vipassana increases awareness of one's surroundings in a nonjudgmental, nonreactive way," Davidson says, but he believes any kind of meditation, even 20 minutes a day, could make spouses better at reading each other's subtleties.
There's another reason people fail to notice their lover's gestures, expressions, or words: "If you're doing well as a couple, basically you have a reservoir of goodwill, so he can be momentarily neglectful or mean-spirited, and it's discounted. "But couples not doing so well are quick to make a great deal of the lapse."Meditation can help spouses connect with more clarity and awareness.
It is recommended starting with a simple meditation of focusing on your breath; when your mind wanders, notice how it's distracted, and come back to your breathing. With regular practice, he says, "I believe a couple would be able to pick up more information about each other's emotional state and do it in a way that is not judgmental. The combination of those two things bodes quite well for improving interpersonal relationships."
The first excuse has to do with an innocent brain glitch called attentional blink. Originally described by Canadian scientists in 1992, it occurs in certain circumstances when, for a split second, "we literally become unconscious of what might be happening right in front of us," says Richard Davidson, PhD, professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin–Madison. Researchers can elicit the blink by showing subjects a rapid stream of numbers on a computer screen and asking them to hit a button every time they see a 3. When two 3s appear closely together, Davidson says, almost nobody hits the button twice. "It's as if the mind gets stuck on the occurrence of the first and misses the second."
This is particularly true when we're in a heated or passionate interchange. "With emotional cues, our attention is very sticky," he explains.
"We tend to grasp onto certain things, which is really what causes us to miss the others. Rubbernecking on the freeways is an example of attentional grasping." Davidson's latest research showed, however, that three months of intensive vipassana—or insight—meditation significantly reduced attentional blink. "Vipassana increases awareness of one's surroundings in a nonjudgmental, nonreactive way," Davidson says, but he believes any kind of meditation, even 20 minutes a day, could make spouses better at reading each other's subtleties.
There's another reason people fail to notice their lover's gestures, expressions, or words: "If you're doing well as a couple, basically you have a reservoir of goodwill, so he can be momentarily neglectful or mean-spirited, and it's discounted. "But couples not doing so well are quick to make a great deal of the lapse."Meditation can help spouses connect with more clarity and awareness.
It is recommended starting with a simple meditation of focusing on your breath; when your mind wanders, notice how it's distracted, and come back to your breathing. With regular practice, he says, "I believe a couple would be able to pick up more information about each other's emotional state and do it in a way that is not judgmental. The combination of those two things bodes quite well for improving interpersonal relationships."
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Be authentic
"Unless your heart, your soul, and your whole being are behind every decision you make, the words from your mouth will be empty, and each action will be meaningless. Truth and confidence are the roots of happiness." ~ Unknown
"Integrity is not a conditional word. It doesn't blow in the wind or change with the weather. It is your inner image of yourself, and if you look in there and see a man who won't cheat, then you know he never will." ~ John McDonald
"Find the courage to hold onto your beliefs, even if the world around you chooses to believe differently. Have the courage to change those beliefs that no longer fit the person you have become. In doing so, you truly become yourself." ~ Daniel Levin
"You never find yourself until you face the truth." ~ Pearl Bailey
"Integrity is not a conditional word. It doesn't blow in the wind or change with the weather. It is your inner image of yourself, and if you look in there and see a man who won't cheat, then you know he never will." ~ John McDonald
"Find the courage to hold onto your beliefs, even if the world around you chooses to believe differently. Have the courage to change those beliefs that no longer fit the person you have become. In doing so, you truly become yourself." ~ Daniel Levin
"You never find yourself until you face the truth." ~ Pearl Bailey
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
You'll be blown away by the eggs!
These egg shells were cut with a high intensity precision Laser Beam. This gives a very good idea of what can be achieved with a Laser Beam. This gives you an idea what laser surgery performed on one's eye is all about. Is it any wonder how one's vision can be improved in just a few moments? Science is sometimes wonderful, and it's still on the frontier of gaining new knowledge. Incredible what can be done with an eggshell and a laser beam.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Letter to ask for a raise
How to ask your Boss for a salary increase..?
One day an employee sends a letter to Her boss asking for an increase in her salary!!!
Dear Bo$$
In thi$ life, we all need $ome thing mo$t de$perately. I think you $hould be under$tanding of the need$ of u$ worker$ who have given $o much $upport including $weat and $ervice to your company.
I am $ure you will gue$$ what I mean and re$pond $oon.
Your$ $incerely,
Marian $hih
The next day, the employee received this letter of reply:
Dear Marian
I kNOw you have been working very hard. NOwadays, NOthing much has changed. You must have NOticed that our company is NOt doing NOticeably well as yet.
NOw the newspaper are saying the world`s leading ecoNOmists are NOt sure if the United States may go into aNOther recession. After the NOvember presidential elections things may turn bad.
I have NOthing more to add NOw. You kNOw what I mean.
Yours truly,
Manager
One day an employee sends a letter to Her boss asking for an increase in her salary!!!
Dear Bo$$
In thi$ life, we all need $ome thing mo$t de$perately. I think you $hould be under$tanding of the need$ of u$ worker$ who have given $o much $upport including $weat and $ervice to your company.
I am $ure you will gue$$ what I mean and re$pond $oon.
Your$ $incerely,
Marian $hih
The next day, the employee received this letter of reply:
Dear Marian
I kNOw you have been working very hard. NOwadays, NOthing much has changed. You must have NOticed that our company is NOt doing NOticeably well as yet.
NOw the newspaper are saying the world`s leading ecoNOmists are NOt sure if the United States may go into aNOther recession. After the NOvember presidential elections things may turn bad.
I have NOthing more to add NOw. You kNOw what I mean.
Yours truly,
Manager
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Stop Fighting About Money...
We all know that money consistently tops the charts when it comes to things couples fight about. When wallets are tighter—as they most certainly are now—things only get worse. We're stressed, we're worried about our jobs, our investments, our bank accounts, and we take it out on each other.
Here are four ways to work through your money woes as a team.
Agree on a Budget—Together
They say opposites attract, and I guess that's one reason so many spenders find themselves with savers, or vice versa.
It's hard to break old habits, so instead of trying to convert your spendthrift husband into a tightwad, sit down and agree to a few limits. What percentage of your income will go toward entertainment? What percent will go toward other extras, like new clothes, and what percent do you need to set aside for housing, transportation, savings and debt repayment?
Make sure you're divvying up take-home pay, not salary, otherwise, you're setting yourselves up to fall short. Once you've agreed on a budget, stick to it.
Set Goals
Maybe you want to buy a house while interest rates are down, or maybe you already have one and the only thing you need is a vacation. Or you want to be debt-free a year from now, or send your kids to college or go back to school yourself. Work out a game plan together so you know what is coming your way, when, and how you'll foot the bill. Talk about your short-term goals (the vacation) and the long-term ones (retirement), and make sure you share a similar picture of the future. A little foresight goes a long way.
Remember, too, that there are some things—layoffs, major car maintenance, medical bills—that you just can't predict. This is where an emergency fund comes in. Pull at least three to six months' worth of living expenses together so you have it at the ready in either a savings or money market account.
Communicate
The last thing you need to do is micromanage each other's expenses, a sure road to disaster. But keeping each other informed of major expenditures easily eliminates costly problems like bounced checks or over-the-limit credit card fees.
It's up to you do define major—it largely depends on how much disposable income you have—but many couples use $100, $300 or $500 as the threshold. In other words, if you want to buy a coffee, go ahead. If you want to buy a new television, it's probably a good idea to give your spouse a call first.
Get to the Root of the Issue
Money fights usually aren't about money. Sometimes they're about power. Sometimes, when assets are unequal, they're about self-esteem or jealousy. Sometimes they're about attention, if in your mind money equals love or affection.
Point being, it's really important for you both to try to understand what's driving your anger, instead of letting it fester. If you're upset about something, hash it out, but do it calmly. If you can't, enlist the help of a financial planner or even a marriage counselor.
Here are four ways to work through your money woes as a team.
Agree on a Budget—Together
They say opposites attract, and I guess that's one reason so many spenders find themselves with savers, or vice versa.
It's hard to break old habits, so instead of trying to convert your spendthrift husband into a tightwad, sit down and agree to a few limits. What percentage of your income will go toward entertainment? What percent will go toward other extras, like new clothes, and what percent do you need to set aside for housing, transportation, savings and debt repayment?
Make sure you're divvying up take-home pay, not salary, otherwise, you're setting yourselves up to fall short. Once you've agreed on a budget, stick to it.
Set Goals
Maybe you want to buy a house while interest rates are down, or maybe you already have one and the only thing you need is a vacation. Or you want to be debt-free a year from now, or send your kids to college or go back to school yourself. Work out a game plan together so you know what is coming your way, when, and how you'll foot the bill. Talk about your short-term goals (the vacation) and the long-term ones (retirement), and make sure you share a similar picture of the future. A little foresight goes a long way.
Remember, too, that there are some things—layoffs, major car maintenance, medical bills—that you just can't predict. This is where an emergency fund comes in. Pull at least three to six months' worth of living expenses together so you have it at the ready in either a savings or money market account.
Communicate
The last thing you need to do is micromanage each other's expenses, a sure road to disaster. But keeping each other informed of major expenditures easily eliminates costly problems like bounced checks or over-the-limit credit card fees.
It's up to you do define major—it largely depends on how much disposable income you have—but many couples use $100, $300 or $500 as the threshold. In other words, if you want to buy a coffee, go ahead. If you want to buy a new television, it's probably a good idea to give your spouse a call first.
Get to the Root of the Issue
Money fights usually aren't about money. Sometimes they're about power. Sometimes, when assets are unequal, they're about self-esteem or jealousy. Sometimes they're about attention, if in your mind money equals love or affection.
Point being, it's really important for you both to try to understand what's driving your anger, instead of letting it fester. If you're upset about something, hash it out, but do it calmly. If you can't, enlist the help of a financial planner or even a marriage counselor.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Learn from everything
"Your joy is divine and so is your suffering. There's so much to be learned from both." ~ Wayne Dyer
"Learn everything you can, anytime you can, from anyone you can - there will always come a time when you will be grateful you did." ~ Sarah Caldwell
"Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from." ~ Elizabeth Kubler Ross
"You learn something every day if you pay attention." ~ Ray LeBlond
"Learn everything you can, anytime you can, from anyone you can - there will always come a time when you will be grateful you did." ~ Sarah Caldwell
"Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from." ~ Elizabeth Kubler Ross
"You learn something every day if you pay attention." ~ Ray LeBlond
Monday, February 16, 2009
Learning to Apologize
Do you have a difficult time admitting you were wrong? Reason cos' it's hard for people to say they're sorry. We're not strong enough to say we are sorry these days—the insecure people can't.
Although some believe that saying sorry is an admission of guilt, frailty and imperfection, only people who really believe in themselves can say they're sorry, . Others think that apologizing is an act of surrender, will change the dynamic of the relationship, means that you will have to do the "heavy lifting" in the relationship or will open yourself up to the possibility of further attack. Some would rather be right than be in a relationship.
However, these are some tips on how to learn to say you're sorry:
* Practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the more comfortable you become.
* Say it without any "but." What's worse than not apologizing is doing it with stipulations or limitations. "People will see your apology as insincere and that you won't be open-hearted to them,".
* Don't wait too long to apologize. The longer you wait, the less your apology means.It's important because it shows people that you want to deal with the situation, rather than retreat from it. "If you wait, too much damage may already be done.
"Immature people always want to win an argument, even at the cost of a relationship. Mature people understand that it's always better to lose an argument and win a relationship."
Although some believe that saying sorry is an admission of guilt, frailty and imperfection, only people who really believe in themselves can say they're sorry, . Others think that apologizing is an act of surrender, will change the dynamic of the relationship, means that you will have to do the "heavy lifting" in the relationship or will open yourself up to the possibility of further attack. Some would rather be right than be in a relationship.
However, these are some tips on how to learn to say you're sorry:
* Practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the more comfortable you become.
* Say it without any "but." What's worse than not apologizing is doing it with stipulations or limitations. "People will see your apology as insincere and that you won't be open-hearted to them,".
* Don't wait too long to apologize. The longer you wait, the less your apology means.It's important because it shows people that you want to deal with the situation, rather than retreat from it. "If you wait, too much damage may already be done.
"Immature people always want to win an argument, even at the cost of a relationship. Mature people understand that it's always better to lose an argument and win a relationship."
Friday, February 13, 2009
Humourous way of answering stupid question
STUPID QUESTIONS WITH THE SMART ANSWERS:
BOY : May I hold your hand?
GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.
GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me!
BOY : You love me...
GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring??
BOY : Sure, what's your phone number??
GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest.
BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple
GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever.
BOY : Don't you ever want to improve??
BOY : I love you and I could die for you!
GIRL : How soon??
BOY : I would go to the end of the world for you!
GIRL : Yes, but would you stay there??
SHARON : Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning kiss??
TRACY : I did once. He'd forgotten to take the cigarette out of his mouth.
MAN : You remind me of the sea.
WOMAN : Because I'm wild, romantic and exciting?
MAN : NO, because you make me sick.
WIFE : You tell a man something, it goes in one ear and comes out of the other.
HUSBAND : You tell a woman something: It goes in both ears and comes out of the mouth.
MARY : John says I'm pretty. Andy says I'm ugly.What do u think,
Peter?
PETER : A bit of both. I think you're pretty ugly.
1) Girlfriend : "...And are you sure you love me and no one else ?"
Boyfriend : "Dead Sure! I checked the whole list again yesterday".
2) Teacher : "Which is more important to us, the sun or the moon?"
Pupil : "The moon".
Teacher : "Why?"
Pupil : "The moon gives us light at night when we need it but the sun gives us light only in the day time when we don't need it".
3) Teacher : "What do you call a person who keeps on talking when people are no longer interested?"
Pupil : "A teacher".
4) Waiter : "Would you like your coffee black?"
Customer : "What other colors do you have?"
5) My father is so old that when he was in school, history was called current affairs.
6) Teacher : "Sam, you talk a lot !"
Sam : "It's a family tradition".
Teacher : "What do you mean?"
Sam : "Sir, my grandpa was a street hawker, my father is a teacher".
Teacher : "What about your mother?"
Sam : "She's a woman".
7) Tom : "How should I convey the news to my father that I've failed?"
David: "You just send a telegram: Result declared, past year's performance repeated".
8) Teacher : "Now, children, if I saw a man beating a donkey and stopped him, what virtue would I be showing?"
Student : "Brotherly love".
9) Teacher : "Now, Sam, tell me frankly do you say prayers before eating?"
Sam : "No sir, I don't have to, my mom is a good cook".
10) Patient : "What are the chances of my recovering doctor?"
Doctor : "One hundred percent. Medical records show that nine out of ten people die of the disease you have. Yours is the tenth case I've treated. The others all died".
11) Teacher : " Can anybody give an example of COINCIDENCE?"
One Student : "Sir, my Mother and Father got married on the same day and at the same time."
12) Teacher : " George Washington not only chopped down his father's Cherry tree, but also admitted doing it.
Now do you know why his father didn't punish him ?"
One Student: " Because George still had the axe in is hand."
BOY : May I hold your hand?
GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.
GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me!
BOY : You love me...
GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring??
BOY : Sure, what's your phone number??
GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest.
BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple
GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever.
BOY : Don't you ever want to improve??
BOY : I love you and I could die for you!
GIRL : How soon??
BOY : I would go to the end of the world for you!
GIRL : Yes, but would you stay there??
SHARON : Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning kiss??
TRACY : I did once. He'd forgotten to take the cigarette out of his mouth.
MAN : You remind me of the sea.
WOMAN : Because I'm wild, romantic and exciting?
MAN : NO, because you make me sick.
WIFE : You tell a man something, it goes in one ear and comes out of the other.
HUSBAND : You tell a woman something: It goes in both ears and comes out of the mouth.
MARY : John says I'm pretty. Andy says I'm ugly.What do u think,
Peter?
PETER : A bit of both. I think you're pretty ugly.
1) Girlfriend : "...And are you sure you love me and no one else ?"
Boyfriend : "Dead Sure! I checked the whole list again yesterday".
2) Teacher : "Which is more important to us, the sun or the moon?"
Pupil : "The moon".
Teacher : "Why?"
Pupil : "The moon gives us light at night when we need it but the sun gives us light only in the day time when we don't need it".
3) Teacher : "What do you call a person who keeps on talking when people are no longer interested?"
Pupil : "A teacher".
4) Waiter : "Would you like your coffee black?"
Customer : "What other colors do you have?"
5) My father is so old that when he was in school, history was called current affairs.
6) Teacher : "Sam, you talk a lot !"
Sam : "It's a family tradition".
Teacher : "What do you mean?"
Sam : "Sir, my grandpa was a street hawker, my father is a teacher".
Teacher : "What about your mother?"
Sam : "She's a woman".
7) Tom : "How should I convey the news to my father that I've failed?"
David: "You just send a telegram: Result declared, past year's performance repeated".
8) Teacher : "Now, children, if I saw a man beating a donkey and stopped him, what virtue would I be showing?"
Student : "Brotherly love".
9) Teacher : "Now, Sam, tell me frankly do you say prayers before eating?"
Sam : "No sir, I don't have to, my mom is a good cook".
10) Patient : "What are the chances of my recovering doctor?"
Doctor : "One hundred percent. Medical records show that nine out of ten people die of the disease you have. Yours is the tenth case I've treated. The others all died".
11) Teacher : " Can anybody give an example of COINCIDENCE?"
One Student : "Sir, my Mother and Father got married on the same day and at the same time."
12) Teacher : " George Washington not only chopped down his father's Cherry tree, but also admitted doing it.
Now do you know why his father didn't punish him ?"
One Student: " Because George still had the axe in is hand."
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Love rules to live by....
There is potential for soul mate love all around us at every moment. It is a matter of recognizing the connection, sensing the "charge" of energy, and then cultivating a relationship that will take us beyond our present limitations. A soul mate brings us enormous joy and fulfillment, but even more importantly, soul mates lead us into our life's lessons. They get under our skin and push our buttons. They inspire us to look at who we are and where we need to grow.
Whether single, married, or somewhere in between, we can begin practicing masterful ways
of relating with whomever stands before us, and in this way, we become better and more enlightened human beings. We can become the love we want to find; we can source it from within.
Whether single, married, or somewhere in between, we can begin practicing masterful ways
of relating with whomever stands before us, and in this way, we become better and more enlightened human beings. We can become the love we want to find; we can source it from within.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Looking for Love
Psychologists say the key to getting off the dating merry-go-round often requires nothing more than taking time to get to know yourself before you try to get to know someone else.
Here are five ways to help you do just that:
* Define your core values.
* Understand your emotional needs.
* Identify your love pattern.
* Test drive a potential relationship.
* Once dating, go in for a three-month checkup.
Define Your Core Values
Understanding your core values is at the heart of truly knowing your needs.
These are the things about yourself that are not likely to change. They are the tenets you grew up believing and that deep down inside still seem to fit into your life no matter what else changes.
No matter how many qualities you put on your list of "must haves," nothing matters quite so much as finding someone who shares your core values. "In the end, they represent who you are and what you need. They are the deal breakers," While core values are different for every person, they often touch on such personal issues as:
* The desire to have children
* Religious beliefs
* How you deal with money
* How you make important decisions
* The importance you place on honesty, integrity, fidelity
* Even how you view divorce itself
And while we all have heard that opposites attract—and experts say they do—when it comes to the really big issues in our life, shared values are still what count the most. When it comes to our most important and lasting relationships, it's similar core values that becomes the glue that cements a couple together.
Understand Your Emotional Needs
While core values may form the foundation of who we are, our emotional needs often define the finer points of our relationships. We must acknowledge those emotional needs before we can find someone who can fill them.
A need for intimacy, for sexual gratification and satisfaction, a need to be honored and understood and even accepted by our partner, these are all important aspects of who we are. Each of us has our own way in which these needs must be met in order to feel happy and secure.
Understanding what fulfillment means to you is paramount to finding a partner with whom you can feel satisfied and happy.
The one caveat: Trouble comes when we look for a partner to fulfill us in ways that, ultimately, we can only fulfill ourselves.
If you are looking to a partner to make you feel worthwhile, to make you feel happy, to rescue you from a bored or unhappy life, if you are seeking someone to make you feel complete or whole—well then you have some work to do, because these are needs that are never going to be met by any one other than yourself. To put those demands on someone else is to set up yourself—and the relationship—for failure.
Identify Your Love Pattern
So how do we go about finding the kind of person who can meet our emotional needs and share our core values? Experts say we should look for clues in the good relationships we already have with friends and family members.
Think about relationships you've had—or currently have—that bring out the best in you.Think about the relationships in which you have felt you could grow and the ones that left you feeling fulfilled. Not just romantic relationships, but any relationships with family and with friends.
Also important: Think about the people who make you feel safe and secure, the people with whom you can be yourself. Eventually, a pattern of personality traits will begin to emerge. Not coincidentally, these will be the same traits that will serve you best in a romantic partner.
You are looking for not only character traits, but also ways of relating to you, and you to them. Look for what has worked in previous relationships.
In the end, it's often the people around whom you feel the most comfortable that possess the kind of traits you need for a lasting partnership.
Test Drive a Potential Relationship
Looking inside yourself can help prepare you for a successful relationship, but eventually you must apply what you've discovered—and begin seeking a partner. Unfortunately, it's at this point where many of us make some heartbreaking mistakes.
One of the most common mistakes: Believing that a person whose looks and personality you like also possesses the important qualities you need for a long-term relationship—before you really know the person.
There's something called cognitive dissonance—meaning your head believes one thing and your heart believes something else. When you are in the throes of those toe-curling tingles, your heart is going to overrule your head every time.
When your sense of logic finally does come back—which takes about 120 days from your first toe curl—suddenly your heartthrob may not seem so appealing. It's equally frustrating when you're still "feeling the buzz" and your partner isn't.
Many such problems could be avoided, if we viewed new relationships like they were a new car—starting with the "test drive" known as "dating."
At the early stages of any relationship you should be dating—and that's dating, not sleeping with.This will give you the emotional distance and time you need to get to know them before you get too serious with any one person.
Go In for a Three-Month Checkup
If the relationship progresses and you like what you see, within two months time you can start dating more seriously, perhaps even exclusively. But within three to four months, it's back to the new car analogy for one more spin around the relationship block.
No matter how good a new car is running, you've still got to take it in for that three-month checkup. The same is true for relationships.
That checkup should involve honestly answering some tough questions about your partner, including:
* Is he really as honest as I first thought?
* Does she have the same moral fiber I thought she did?
* Does he really possess the kind of core values that mean something to me?
* Is she who I thought she was?
If the answers are no, pay attention. Experts say red flags are red for a reason—so you can see them! If your partner isn't making the grade, cut your losses fast and run.
Remember you can change a person's socks, you can change their haircut, but you can't change their core values—or yours.
Here are five ways to help you do just that:
* Define your core values.
* Understand your emotional needs.
* Identify your love pattern.
* Test drive a potential relationship.
* Once dating, go in for a three-month checkup.
Define Your Core Values
Understanding your core values is at the heart of truly knowing your needs.
These are the things about yourself that are not likely to change. They are the tenets you grew up believing and that deep down inside still seem to fit into your life no matter what else changes.
No matter how many qualities you put on your list of "must haves," nothing matters quite so much as finding someone who shares your core values. "In the end, they represent who you are and what you need. They are the deal breakers," While core values are different for every person, they often touch on such personal issues as:
* The desire to have children
* Religious beliefs
* How you deal with money
* How you make important decisions
* The importance you place on honesty, integrity, fidelity
* Even how you view divorce itself
And while we all have heard that opposites attract—and experts say they do—when it comes to the really big issues in our life, shared values are still what count the most. When it comes to our most important and lasting relationships, it's similar core values that becomes the glue that cements a couple together.
Understand Your Emotional Needs
While core values may form the foundation of who we are, our emotional needs often define the finer points of our relationships. We must acknowledge those emotional needs before we can find someone who can fill them.
A need for intimacy, for sexual gratification and satisfaction, a need to be honored and understood and even accepted by our partner, these are all important aspects of who we are. Each of us has our own way in which these needs must be met in order to feel happy and secure.
Understanding what fulfillment means to you is paramount to finding a partner with whom you can feel satisfied and happy.
The one caveat: Trouble comes when we look for a partner to fulfill us in ways that, ultimately, we can only fulfill ourselves.
If you are looking to a partner to make you feel worthwhile, to make you feel happy, to rescue you from a bored or unhappy life, if you are seeking someone to make you feel complete or whole—well then you have some work to do, because these are needs that are never going to be met by any one other than yourself. To put those demands on someone else is to set up yourself—and the relationship—for failure.
Identify Your Love Pattern
So how do we go about finding the kind of person who can meet our emotional needs and share our core values? Experts say we should look for clues in the good relationships we already have with friends and family members.
Think about relationships you've had—or currently have—that bring out the best in you.Think about the relationships in which you have felt you could grow and the ones that left you feeling fulfilled. Not just romantic relationships, but any relationships with family and with friends.
Also important: Think about the people who make you feel safe and secure, the people with whom you can be yourself. Eventually, a pattern of personality traits will begin to emerge. Not coincidentally, these will be the same traits that will serve you best in a romantic partner.
You are looking for not only character traits, but also ways of relating to you, and you to them. Look for what has worked in previous relationships.
In the end, it's often the people around whom you feel the most comfortable that possess the kind of traits you need for a lasting partnership.
Test Drive a Potential Relationship
Looking inside yourself can help prepare you for a successful relationship, but eventually you must apply what you've discovered—and begin seeking a partner. Unfortunately, it's at this point where many of us make some heartbreaking mistakes.
One of the most common mistakes: Believing that a person whose looks and personality you like also possesses the important qualities you need for a long-term relationship—before you really know the person.
There's something called cognitive dissonance—meaning your head believes one thing and your heart believes something else. When you are in the throes of those toe-curling tingles, your heart is going to overrule your head every time.
When your sense of logic finally does come back—which takes about 120 days from your first toe curl—suddenly your heartthrob may not seem so appealing. It's equally frustrating when you're still "feeling the buzz" and your partner isn't.
Many such problems could be avoided, if we viewed new relationships like they were a new car—starting with the "test drive" known as "dating."
At the early stages of any relationship you should be dating—and that's dating, not sleeping with.This will give you the emotional distance and time you need to get to know them before you get too serious with any one person.
Go In for a Three-Month Checkup
If the relationship progresses and you like what you see, within two months time you can start dating more seriously, perhaps even exclusively. But within three to four months, it's back to the new car analogy for one more spin around the relationship block.
No matter how good a new car is running, you've still got to take it in for that three-month checkup. The same is true for relationships.
That checkup should involve honestly answering some tough questions about your partner, including:
* Is he really as honest as I first thought?
* Does she have the same moral fiber I thought she did?
* Does he really possess the kind of core values that mean something to me?
* Is she who I thought she was?
If the answers are no, pay attention. Experts say red flags are red for a reason—so you can see them! If your partner isn't making the grade, cut your losses fast and run.
Remember you can change a person's socks, you can change their haircut, but you can't change their core values—or yours.
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Quotable quotes...
Choose to Thrive
"If you limit yourself only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise." ~ Robert Fritz
"Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can." ~ Richard Bach
"Fear less, hope more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; And all good things are yours." ~ Swedish proverb
"Enthusiasm finds the opportunities, and energy makes the most of them." ~ Henry Hoskins
"It only takes one person to change your life - you." ~ Ruth Casey
"If you limit yourself only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise." ~ Robert Fritz
"Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can." ~ Richard Bach
"Fear less, hope more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; And all good things are yours." ~ Swedish proverb
"Enthusiasm finds the opportunities, and energy makes the most of them." ~ Henry Hoskins
"It only takes one person to change your life - you." ~ Ruth Casey
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